For Parents
It's tough raising kids these days. It is up to you to provide the guidance for your children. If you say you are going to do something — do it! And remember: be firm, fair and consistent.
Teen Mental Health — Look for the Warning Signs
By Amy Williams, November 25, 2010
We all know that teens have their own world filled with their own worries — school, friends, relationships, upcoming life decisions. These are normal things for a teenager, but in some cases teens don't know how to cope and that may lead to depression, extreme hopelessness, or a feeling of low self-worth.
Each of these signs individually probably means nothing, but if combined with several others, it is time to step up and offer help. Warning signs to watch for include:
- Lack of concentration
- Poor judgment
- Irrational fears
- Compulsive behavior
- Constant nightmares
- Alcohol and drug abuse
- Extreme changes in eating habits
- Destroying property
- Breaking the law
- Life-threatening activities
- Drop in academic performance
- Loss of interest in things once loved
If these warning signs appear, consult with family members, teachers, a school counselor, a family doctor, a professional psychologist, or a social worker.
10 Ways to Improve Communication with Your Children
Start teaching listening skills early. Have "listening times" when you block out distractions — bedtime or evening snack time are ideal. Reading together promotes good listening.
Listen the way you like to be listened to. Be a good role model. Children are much more likely to listen to you when you genuinely listen to them.
Let your child complete what they are saying. Don't interrupt or change the subject — it signals you're not listening.
Establish eye contact. Children feel you're not listening when you're glancing elsewhere. Meet them at their eye level.
Watch your tone of voice and facial expression. Your expression speaks as loudly as your words.
Teach your children to show they are listening through their expressions and body language.
Talk about common interests. Communication flows naturally around shared topics.
See things from your children's viewpoint. Teens who feel heard are far more likely to stay engaged.
Know when to talk and when to stay quiet. Wait until a teenager is ready to talk before expecting them to listen.
Reward good listening habits. Positive, specific feedback and praise are very effective in reinforcing good communication.
Source: Olsen Huff Child Development Center, Dr. Adrian Sandler — Mission Children's Hospital, Asheville, NC